tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17852423.post5554301984842008663..comments2023-11-05T07:13:31.277-05:00Comments on WHAT ARE MEN THINKING?: WAMT: the Lost Files, Volume 1Chuck and Garlandhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18277194909409065185noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17852423.post-5688114545741269012008-12-27T10:37:00.000-05:002008-12-27T10:37:00.000-05:00You guys hit the mark here. Ladies, we have got t...You guys hit the mark here. Ladies, we have got to stop acting the fools when the man who is supposed to be committed to us cheats. Why is it that women blame the other woman instead of the man who was supposed to be committed to her? That other woman owes you nothing and promised you nothing. Whereas that man should have said "no" even if another woman laid naked before him if he truly loved and respected you.<BR/><BR/>I don't think there are too many of us who can say we haven't acted stupidly over a guy at some point in her adult life. I'm proud and embarrassed to say that it happened to me once. Proud, because it was when I was very, very young, and embarrassed because I let a cheating motherfucker give me an STD. I say "let" because I took him back after I found out he was cheating.<BR/><BR/>I look at the STD as God's wake-up call to me to never let another man treat me that way, because luckily it was something curable. I'm proud to say that after that incident in my late teens, I maintained my self-respect and dignity. Men no longer had the option to come back into my life after cheating on me. If you cheated, you were gone, no questions asked, no ifs, ands, or buts about it (no matter how great the sex was).<BR/><BR/>You see, the STD scared the hell out of me and was extremely embarrassing. I'll never forget having to go to the clinic and tell them I thought I had an STD. I'll never forget the embarrassment of wondering what they were thinking about me. I'll never forget the shame and anger I felt after grappling with whether or not to tell the dog that gave me the STD to go get tested, telling him, and then basically having him call me a HO by saying I didn't get it from him, which I knew was untrue since he was the only person I was having sex with. The sad thing in my case was, sex with him wasn't all that, and to this day, I still don't know why I went back for more; low self-esteem at the time, I guess.<BR/><BR/>In closing, let me just say to all the ladies out that that Chuck and Garland are absolutely right about not getting into fights with other women, calling them names, or cussing them out. That woman owed you nothing. Don't give your cheating son-of-a-bitch a big ego and the impression that he's got you on cock-lock. The best thing you can do is walk away, don't look back, and live well. Don't listen to the lies and don't believe him when he says it won't happen again. I'm a firm believer that if he did it once, he'll do it again--maybe not next week and maybe not next month. You don't know when it's going to happen again, but who wants to spend their life always wondering if he's going to it again. It's a cliche, but that old saying of without trust you don't have a relationship is true.<BR/><BR/>BTW, the above advice applies to men as well as women.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com